I read a good book this week, Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg. I took some notes, since I want a concise reference to jog my memory about some of the concepts.

@steve So you don't already jump out of bed every morning and say, "I'm so happy to be alive! I'm so happy see another day!"? Cause that's what I do. I would never need a motivator for that. But, to channel my mother, "to each his own."

@steve Your book report reminded me of a conference talk, and then while I was washing the breakfast dishes, it happened to be the next one up. The speaker talks about the aggregate of marginal gains in light of bicycle racing. it was one of my favorite talks.

@Dewey It's a very good principle. However, quotes like "we must be determined to mirror our persistence with patience" and "if we remain undaunted in our determination" are examples of the motivation monkey, which is unreliable (according to BJ Fogg, though my personal experience certainly agrees with Fogg's paradigm).

Part of what I liked about Tiny Habits is that instead of emphasizing how powerful habits are, it explains how to actually make a habit stick. Its answer is NOT to pump up our determination with motivational talks, but rather to adjust our context, improve our abilities, and identify reliable prompts.

@steve I have to agree that I am generally not motivated by motivational talks. But I really liked the story of the bike team. I like the concept of little changes vs big changes. And as long as we are talking about this, I believe it is morally wrong for one person to set goals for another person. I hope BJ Fogg said something about that. :-)

@Dewey He addresses the delicate balance of, eg, work settings, where it might be appropriate for a manager to suggest goals for other people. But not included in my book report are two maxims that I did put in my notes:

Maxim #1 Help people do what they already want to do

Maxim #2 Help people feel successful

The book is chock-a-block full of real-world examples. Several times he emphasizes that when a parent thinks they want to set a goal for their child, what they actually want is to set a goal for themselves to interact with their child better, so they can help the child set goals for themselves. Children need help understanding their own motivations and abilities, so parents are an integral part of the process, but it's almost always doomed if the parent sets the goal.

@steve I have arrived at your book report. It sounds like a very interesting book with implications for personal, family, and SLP areas of life. For example, my motivation to be a good SLP is high, and the annual ASHA convention helped me gain abilities that will in turn make it easier to make good therapy habits.

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